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Jul 27, 2010 Posted in Basketball, Getting to know me | View Comments

A Season and Basketball

I have started and stopped writing this post many times mostly because I do not want to sound like I do not enjoy my life, but it is time to be honest. Sometimes being the wife of a basketball player is a challenge. Very few times are harder for me than this time of the year. It is an easy time to get down on all that is going on, and I have to be especially careful not to allow resentment to fester in my heart.

I know some of you are thinking, “what is this woman talking about?”

Allow me to explain.

We are entering prime signing time for basketball. Even when Kevin was younger, he didn’t tend to sign until late-July to early August. The past two years he has signed in October and November…and not in Europe, but the Middle East. Waiting for “the call” is always a challenge, but some years are harder than others. This year is one of them. Part of it is my own health issue (more on that later this week), but part of it is the fight within me to trust that things will work out. In other words, the action-researcher/planner part of me allows the lack of action on my part to feel unnatural and manifest itself in discontent. Plus, Kevin has been home since February, which has been nice except for the unemployed part. (It’s definitely a year to praise God that I am also employed!)

In the past seven years of doing this (wow!), I have learned to cope with each season (and this is but one) differently, and like I said, some are harder than others.

One thing this off-season has reinforced for me though:

  • Nothing is a given. Life can change at any time, so it is best that I not hold on too tightly to what I plan for the future.

Kevin’s surgery ensured that lesson was ingrained on both of our minds and hearts, but it also makes this signing season even more stressful for both of us. All we can do is wait… tic toc. OK, Kevin also works out.

What reoccurring life event is a struggle for you?  Remember…each comment is a chance to win the 100% Pure lip gloss. :)

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  • http://www.blacktating.com Elita @ Blacktating

    What is the height difference between you and your hubby? And does this count as an entry for the lipstick? :)

  • MariaWJ

    I am 5-3 and he's 6-7. I was in heels for this picture. :) and yes, this counts. :)

  • http://www.blacktating.com Elita @ Blacktating

    Oops, posted on the wrong entry! My husband is a teacher and it's hard watching him sleep in and relax all day throughout the summer while I have to get up early and bust my tail at work. Sometimes he takes a part-time job over the summer, but often the pay isn't worth the effort or aggravation so he mostly spends the summer working out and doing odd jobs around the house.

  • Adomercant

    I appreciate your honesty on this subject. I've actually been meaning to post something on the LoveAndBasketball page about this since I know so many wives are facing this same type of stress. The market this year seems to be particularly tough. We aren't sure where we are headed this season but I, like you, am trusting that God will provide and put us exactly where we need to be. I wish you and Kevin all the best in the upcoming season!

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