While spending 30 minutes on the treadmill Wednesday, I started thinking through the year. So much happened, yet it seemed to me as though the end of 2013 brings the hope of an amazing 2014. 2013 was a year of change, whereas 2014 looks like a year of a new normal. Here is a summary of what happened in 2013 with the next post to be an expectation for 2014. I know. Half of January passed in the blink of an eye.
2013 brought a separation and pending divorce from Kevin. While the most significant, I do not really write about marriage or my marriage, and this is about all I will write about it outside of how TB and I are doing. What I will say is that gentle parenting and developing a relationship that includes empathy has helped immensely. We both have struggles in dealing with one another, as any mother-son do, but I believe the foundation built through the years has eased this transition for TB. Also, applying the technique of looking at behavior as a symptom has helped to keep me (mostly) focused underlying issues.
2013 brought a return to school. Back in late January or so, in the midst of a conversation with a friend, I mentioned that I would like to earn a PhD…someday. My friend looked at me and said, “In ten years you can look back and be glad you did it or wish you had.” After I picked up my jaw, as it was NOT the response I expected, I went to the bookstore with TB and bought a GRE book, took the GRE March 8th, was accepted in to the Fire and Emergency Management Administration PhD program at Oklahoma State on April 4th as a distance student. I still remember the director calling me (he was my chair when I earned my Masters in Environmental Science) like it was yesterday. Then in an act of pure ridiculousness, I asked to accelerate my admissions so I could take one course in the summer. Going back to school has been one of the hardest and most rewarding things I have done. Ones brain forgets how do do some of these things without practice, but I am doing well.
2013 brought the departure of my cousin. My cousin lived with me for about a year before returning home. That was a new experience for me, and I hope good for her.
2013 brought a new (to me) house! I bought a townhouse in November. Not the brightest to do this in the middle of the semester in a year full of change, but now I am glad I did. I stumbled in to an open house and next thing I knew, I was getting it done!
2013 brought adventure! How else can I describe spending Thanksgiving weekend camping in a tree house? LOL!
2013 brought travel changes. I put my foot down and started limiting work travel to 25% (1 week a month), and fortunately work agreed! TB and I traveled around for races and fun, camped, and flew. It was great.